Sometimes it takes a big person to recognise when a relationship isn’t working out. “It’s not you – it’s me,” has become a cliche and a get out clause. But in this case, I have to say, “It’s not me – it’s YOU!” You crave my attention and you have so many finicky rules and attitudes that I only discover if I ask the right question. And frankly you’re doing my head in.
It only less than two hours of frustration-induced migraine to know that Facebook isn’t for me. Maybe I’m the wrong generation, maybe I haven’t read the instructions thoroughly or really understood the benefits; maybe I’m just a miserable sod. Maybe I’m using ‘maybe’ just a little too much.
After Musa Publishing accepted my 5000 word short story The Silent Hills, they mentioned FB to its stable of authors as a great tool for promoting our work. I find LinkedIn really user friendly and I’ve recently fallen for the charms of Twitter (thanks in part to the tweets of Jimmy Carr and Crab Quotes), so why not Facebook. I mean, how hard can it be to befriend a few people and spread the word. Pretty hard, it turns out. Firstly, my business FB page only does ‘likes’ and secondly a personal account has miraculously appeared that tags my comments as me and not my business.
As Anne said to me today, after receiving a friend request: ‘This person used to ignore me in a roomful of people, so why would I want to become an electronic friend of theirs?’
I understand that social networking taps into our deepest needs to belong and feel valued, whether we’re intent on overtly selling a concept, product or service, or unconsciously advertising our needs and opinions. But time and purpose, once frittered away, can never be retrieved (okay, so it’s a bit dramatic, but that’s how some writers are).
The interesting thing was how I felt after I’d deactivated my account*. It was as if Sisyphus had been given a reprieve. I was freed from the mire of who to befriend, what to read and when the right time is for a gentleman to poke. Plus I can spend the time checking tweets, updating LinkedIn and blogging.
* I know, even deactivated FB pages can be defrosted.